"End of life care for my grandad"

About: Royal Cornwall Hospital (Treliske) / Emergency Department Royal Cornwall Hospital (Treliske) / Lowen Ward

(as a service user),

My 93 year old Grandad was very suddenly taken ill and was taken to A and E resus after deteriorating very quickly. We as a family were called in and the whole team in resus were just amazing, so caring and compassionate and took their time to explain everything to me. He was then transferred to majors 2 where he again received brilliant care and the consultant was amazing and so empathetic to our situation.

My grandad was unfortunately made palliative and we were in a side room. Family had to travel down from London and the consultant reassured us we would be allowed to stay in the side room. As an ex nurse I was very aware of moves and transfers that can happen especially overnight and asked that this be cleared with the site managers. At half past one in the morning not long after family had arrived from London one of the hospital managers informed us they were going to be moving my palliative grandad to a bay on another ward. As you can imagine this is just not acceptable that us as a family would have no privacy in saying goodbye, my grandad would have no dignity in his death and the whole situation being unfair on other patients subjected to having to witness and hear this.

I obviously declined and said this is unacceptable. 10 minutes later they came back and said they had managed to secure us a side room so why put us through this as a devastated and tired family. I felt this made what had so far been such a positive experience suddenly extremely negative and distressing.

Thankfully the ward was Lowen and I cannot commend this ward enough. They comforted us and our grandad straight away and wasted no time in ensuring all the right measures were put in place to ensure he was comfortable and we were fully informed. The care he and us as a family received was second to none, from nurses to  health care staff to domiciliary. Everyone was so caring and empathetic and really reignited my faith in nursing.

Nurses Sarah, Patricia, Gladys, Gwen, Helen and Anna were extraordinary and encompassed everything that nurses aspire to be. Health care Lorna, David and AP Jenna and Heidi. There may have been more and I’m sorry to anyone not mentioned that was involved in my grandads care. This ward and the staff are an absolute credit to this hospital and my grandad passed after 4 days in the most peaceful and dignified way.

Their end of life care was exceptional. We as a family could not be more indebted to these wonderful people and ward. Thank you all so much. Keep being amazing.

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Responses

Response from Todd Harris, Palliative & End of Life Care Team, Royal Cornwall Hospitals NHS Trust 5 days ago
Todd Harris
Palliative & End of Life Care Team,
Royal Cornwall Hospitals NHS Trust
Submitted on 25/04/2025 at 10:08
Published on Care Opinion at 10:08


As a palliative and end of life CNS at RCHT, I offer my condolences for the loss of your granddad.

I am pleased to hear a Lowen side room was sourced and delighted the excellent team there provided a good end of life experience for your family. Well done Lowen!

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Update posted by Jenna8963 (a service user)

The palliative care nurses were also amazing and compassionate and a massive part of our time there so thank to you all too!

Response from Todd Harris, Palliative & End of Life Care Team, Royal Cornwall Hospitals NHS Trust 3 days ago
Todd Harris
Palliative & End of Life Care Team,
Royal Cornwall Hospitals NHS Trust
Submitted on 27/04/2025 at 09:24
Published on Care Opinion at 09:28


I'm glad our team was involved and could help your family at that most difficult time. Best wishes

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Response from Robyn Jones, Sister, Emergency Department, Royal Cornwall Hospitals NHS Trust yesterday
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Robyn Jones
Sister, Emergency Department,
Royal Cornwall Hospitals NHS Trust

I work in the Emergency Department as a Sister. I support a team of nurses and doctors in delivering emergency care. I co-manage performance and conduct with the ED senior team in line with local and national policies. I believe that maintaining contact post attendance with our services users is really beneficial. Gaining your valuable feedback can help us create changes so we can deliver the best service we can.

Submitted on 29/04/2025 at 15:16
Published on Care Opinion on 30/04/2025 at 08:53


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Dear Jenna8963

I am so sorry about your bereavement and to hear that ED transferred your grandad against your wishes. When the ED is so overcrowded sometimes we have to make the challenging decision to transfer patients out to create more space and allow resources for increasing demand. I do agree, it is undignified and adds more stress to your grandad and his family. I sincerely apologise.

I have asked the senior team for guidance on perhaps setting a standard that we do not transfer patients out of ED at the end of their lives. We will need to discuss this as a wider senior team as risk has to be managed across the department, Trust and wider community.

I am pleased to hear your grandad received excellent care in ED and from the receiving ward.

If you would like me to update you on any outcomes please let me know.

Kind regards

Robyn Jones, Sister, ED

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